She is having dancing classes, cheap nfl hats, piano lessons and learning calligraphy in her free time.
That’s the same as my niece in a previous one article I wrote.
Two of them are not unique; the majority of Chinese students are in the same situation when they started kindergarten.
To be worse, I’ve heard from another niece, nowadays, rich moms are supposed to stay at home accompanying study for one single kid.
They are so busy sending kids to the school, picking them up, helping homework and taking them to the weekend, after school classes.
It’s like mom’s whole life is given to the little one, all she does for providing her kid with the better life of future.
Again, when the daughter grows up, the girl has to prepare for her own child.
Where’s the life of girls? Is that ladies destiny, looking after children from one generation to the other?
I can’t deny a great mom like you, and I respect you very much of sacrificing time for your child.
But I just find it a bit unfair to yourself, because there will be a big gap if the young one keeps learning new things, whereas mom stays at the same level.
I read one story regarding a Chinese writer, Kathy who is in her 20s.
She’s got a bit annoyed with her mom when Kathy was a little one; her mom was so strict to her as if study the only important thing in her life, nfl jerseys cheap, all Kathy got criticism no matter how hard she has tried.
Her mom spent all the time and put a huge effort to make a perfect daughter; mom thought that’s the best way for Kathy to grow.
When Kathy turns to 20, she finds there’s no personal space; her mom cares too much about her life even when she stays overseas.
“Have you had enough food? If you don’t have money, please let me know, I will send to you ASAP.” That’s what Kathy heard from her mom through phone calls every day.
Whereas Kathy doesn’t need money from her mom, she wants to be independent, and she can look after herself.
As long as her mom has own life being a happy woman, that’s all Kathy expects.
However, Kathy’s life is her mom’s life; her mom is used to it since Kathy was born.
She worries about Kathy: “You’d better find a proper job instead of being a writer, why you don’t have a boyfriend?”
This gives Kathy high pressure which frustrates her very much.
Moms, probably when your child turns to 20, he or she might have the same feeling as Kathy if you don’t have your own life.
I don’t think it is necessary to request a child learn so many things, because everyone’s doing the same. In the end, he or she might just to be average.
Pick up a couple of stuff which daughter or son loves and enjoys, probably one day your kid will be above average because while others are learning so many things, cheap hats, yours focuses on one thing and makes it the best.
Independence is an essential skill a child should master if he or she wants to be a winner in this competitive world, so please don’t stick with your kid, give her enough space to grow.
Then you can find yourself more time preparing to go back to the workforce if you like, or pursuing hobbies, probably one day your interests can turn into a career, please just don’t waste precious time.
The world is changing so fast; you can’t believe it.
Nowadays, a high education degree can’t guarantee a good job; one can’t stand out with average skills.
Only let children do what they love which is unique, they can be above others, they might make a fortune in the future, no one knows.
Last weekend, I had an online course regarding how to use Wechat subscription to attract more followers.
I was shocked how smart the lecturer, he seems to me a money-making machine.
I paid 100CNY ($20) for 14 lessons, the time I joined, there were 3500 students, within a few hours, students have reached 6000, up to now, there are 9705 attendants.
Let’s figure out, how much gross profit he can gain 9705*100CNY= 970,500 CNY ($194,100), that’s only for five online classes (total 3 hours), the rest lessons are coming, and people can still join after finish all the lessons.
The revenue is unlimited.
Now you can understand how important if a person follows his passion, the lecturer failed entering into a university.
To start with, he was a telephone salesman with little basic salary 1500CNY($300) a month.
But he was fascinated with Wechat subscription, and then he found another job helping a company to find Wechat followers.
Since then, his fortune has been changed dramatically.
Now he’s running own business. He can make so much profit from a few hours’ video lessons, but that’s the experience, knowledge, Cheap jerseys, passion, time and effort he put for the past few years.
Probably his mom never understand it can be regard as a proper job; the truth is that the world is changing, this is a new media age.
Let’s learn new things, and don’t be so strict to our children because the world is changing.
If we remain the same, we will be out of date, and that’s very wrong if we request our children to do things under our standard.
Moms, please don’t design a life for the next generation, give them the freedom to choose, let them do what they like, that’s the best reward we can offer them.
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